With all the flap about North Carolina and Mississippi
legislatures taking a Jesus stand against LGBT folks…and completely missing the
irony of the fact that they have already been serially on the wrong side of
history for generations….I give props to PayPal and Bruce Springsteen and
Charles Barkley for drawing a line in the sand, pulling up stakes and moving on
to more rainbow pastures.
What I object to in this whole deal is the term “homophobe”.
Today we had a black guy come in and share what life is
really like in the Carolinas. As a musician
he is used to moving in all kinds of circles.
In the Carolinas there are many, many restaurants and bars that he still
can’t go into with his white friends.
Still. This is not just racism... it
is race hatred.
“Homophobe” means “afraid of homosexuals or homosexuality”. I submit to you that the folks in Mississippi
and North Carolina have gone way past fear and are into full on hatred. Not sure the Latin term for “hatred of
My dear departed brother, Rob (whose 62nd
birthday we just didn’t celebrate) was gay My dad, Roger was gay, it turns out.
. Good on them. They were originals way back before it was “OK”
to be gay. I mean, my dad was a NYC
banker. I remember the day he wore a
blue striped Brooks Brothers shirt to work. He was shitting himself with worry. Rob was the first secretary of ActUp in New
Funny how Rob always had the hot, smart girlfriends in high
Anyway….based on my genetics….I have a little
homophobia. Lurking fear that….well?
I am also kind of scared of depression, alcoholism and anger
related issues that have popped up for generations in our family.
Locally we have very little actual race hatred…and a
declining amount of actual LGBT hatred.
We still have homophobia.
Lots of the local general pop are afraid of homosexuality. Unsure, worried, not understanding…..but not
I feel sorry for the Miss/Carolina folk. I think they will live to regret their hatred
and their actions. Jesus actually always
in all situations loved all his people…..and all his critters and plants, for
that matter. Anyone have a count of the
gay, hermaphroditic, etc plants and critters around us?
Our local folks I worry more about. I don’t’ see hatred. I see fear. Still, there is a curse to come
for these folks, too. And Jesus has
nothing to do with it.
When you turn your back on your beautiful, hard-working
daughter…and her love choice (who is also gorgeous, genrous and hard working to
a fault) when they choose to expose their love to public scrutiny by getting married….you
are going to cursed.
Not by Jesus. By your
own self, and your regrets as the world passes you by, and you lose track of
the best people in your life.
In twenty years, when you are sharing a room with your buddy
Jim in the Heavy Equipment Operators Rest Home (for some reason, none of the
available women are into you anymore) and your grandchildren are confused and
scared by your attitude to their moms…..
You will be boiling in a hell of your own regrets. I promise.
Guys….women: don’t be
afraid! It’s OK. These are great, great girls….and if they
have a connection and want to make a life together…..support them.
Heroes are made not born. You can do it. .
Go with hope…and faith. Duh, love.
Jesus would approve. That’s what he did.